Combining Physical and Mental Personal Development for Greater Success with Confidence

 Combining Physical and Mental Personal Development

I am an advocate of doing personal development daily. You should listen to motivational recordings on a daily basis to improve your mental outlook and your focus. You should read motivational books daily to strengthen your motivation using another modality. You should exercise daily to improve your body and your mind. Where are you going to find the time to do all of these things? The answer is combining your physical and mental development, developing yourself, and confidence. Let me tell you about my favorite method.

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  • Combining Physical and Mental Personal Development

I am a walker. My favorite form of exercise is to get outside and walk fast. It gets the heart pumping faster, the blood flowing freely, and gives me time to use my mind. Walking does not require intense thought. I walk for approximately one hour every day. I use this same time to listen to motivational audio recordings. I take my MP3 player with me when I head out for my morning walk. I have the player loaded with recording from top motivational speakers like Tony Robbins, David Wood, Jim Rohn, and even Oprah. I get a dose of motivation while I walk.

Personal development is not limited to motivation, though. You need to expand your knowledge to help you fulfill your goals. I add audiobooks to my playlist that help me learn the skills to obtain my goals. This can include books on financial development, fitness, proper diet, memory improvement, or any other skill you need to learn. 

I split my hour walk into two sections. For the first 30 minutes, I listen to motivational speakers to get my mind moving in overdrive. Then I switch into learning mode. The last 30 minutes of my walk is spent listening to teachers explaining ways I can improve my life using their techniques and systems. You cannot imagine the power of starting your day this way. You go from sleeping to physically alert and active in moments. You go from sluggish thoughts to the excitement. You go from wondering how to solve problems by getting the advice you need to move forward. You do it all before you start your workday. 

I have not forgotten about reading time. I have an inexpensive exercise bike at my home. It is set up in the family room where everyone watches television. In the evening, I get on my exercise bike and pedal slowly while I read. This helps me wind down from the day and still get a little additional exercise. I am spending time with my family and reading inspirational words. I do not worry about the disruptions from the family or the television. I am reading to relax and absorb. The words flow into my subconscious where they provide the greatest benefit.

  • Developing Yourself

Personal development comes in a wide variety of activities, but it has been my experience that you have to actively want to change yourself before anything can be done. From there, you are able to grow and learn from your experiences. This will aid in all aspects of your life, from the home to the workplace.

The ability to look in on oneself and see where you fall short is a hard thing for most people to do. It took me years to figure out that I needed to change and even longer to actually make the change a set reality. Oftentimes, the need for change comes from a dark part of your life, but you may be lucky enough to have insight or others helping you to know where you need to improve.

The path to personal development can be long and hard, but that isn't to say you won't have fun in the process. If you enjoy reading, there are thousands of books that can help you with whatever aspect of development you want and need. You may not realize it, but the books HR speaks about to staff often have great truths hidden within them, as long as you are willing to accept the advice.

It has been an ongoing process for me to develop, both personally and professionally. In fact, it even involved a bit of therapy early on to learn self-coping skills after a long stretch of depression. Hearing about my faults wasn't easy, but ten years later, I understand what my therapist was telling me and that helped, at least for a while.

Like in anything, you stagnate and think that everything is better even if things are worse. This happened to me as well, as I'm sure it has happened for many others. The key is to always reflect on yourself whenever things are both going well and badly. This combination of reflection gives you a solid look into what happens in your life, and more importantly, it shows how you react.

  • Confidence Is Key

Let’s face it; if you want to succeed at anything, you need to have a certain level of confidence. This doesn’t mean that you need to boldly and fearlessly attack every aspect of life. There certainly may be areas where you lack confidence. You need to identify, however, the areas of life where you need to be confident in order to succeed.

The first thing you need to do is to identify where you need more confidence, and where you don’t. Let’s say, for example, that you are afraid of public speaking, and you need to get over that to succeed. In this case, you need to gain confidence in speaking in front of people. If you lack confidence in cooking a good meal, that certainly won’t matter to your speaking ability. You need to identify where you need to gain confidence, and where lack of confidence doesn’t matter. This doesn’t mean that you can’t gain confidence in other areas, though.

One of the dangers of a lack of confidence is that it can fuel failure. Failure then leads to decreased confidence, which leads to failure, which leads to… well you can see it’s a vicious circle. Lack of confidence and failure feed on each other, and they will drag you down. So, the first key to gaining confidence is to succeed rather than fail.

Your first successes do not need to be major successes. You just need to succeed at something to start lifting yourself up and break out of the failure->lack of confidence cycle. Choose a small goal to achieve. This needs to be a goal that you cannot achieve at this time, but it also needs to be achievable with a little bit of work. Set your mind on achieving this goal. Set yourself a realistic time frame, and then determine what you need to in order to succeed.

Once you achieve this goal, you will start to see that you can succeed. Keep setting yourself goals, and work towards achieving them. Success will lead to confidence, which will lead to more success, and so on. Before long, you will be able to attack the critical areas where you lack confidence. If you fear public speaking, you can now start working on that lack of confidence. Find mentors to help you along. Find groups and organizations that will help you to build confidence.

Do not confuse confidence with arrogance. Being confident is a good thing, being arrogant is a bad thing. Confidence is the idea that you can achieve something that you can succeed. Arrogance is the idea that you are better than others.

Confidence is the key to succeeding in any aspect of life. Whether you want to succeed in business, creative endeavors, fitness, weight loss, or family, you need to have confidence. Start by setting yourself small goals, and find small successes. Build on those successes and you will find yourself gaining confidence in all areas of your life. Once you have confidence and success, then you can start helping those who lack confidence themselves.

There is one last piece of advice I want to offer. Write down your goals and read them before you start your morning workout and after you finish reading your inspirational book at night. Plant those goals deeply in your mind while you continue your personal development quest. You will be surprised as you start seeing your goals moving closer day by day.

Take these reactions and build on them. If you are too angry, try to find a way to dissolve your anger before it blows up. Some cry too easily, and you can take this observation as a wake-up call to toughen yourself up. These skills will help with your spouse, coworkers, and your boss during tough times.

If you're having a hard time tapping into your emotions, and don't have the insurance for a therapist, finding a nonjudgmental friend might be good for you. You two can speak about what problems you are having, and they might be willing to help. Just be careful not to overburden them, and strike a balance of giving and take before pursuing this option.

With the right mindset, humans are able to move mountains. If your boss or a loved one sees a change in you for the better, you will want to continue to try and grow, and the cycle will continue. Don't be discouraged, and allow yourself a better life.

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